Read Someone
Is my parent a narcissist, or is that just how parents are?
You had no comparison growing up; that was the whole problem. This asks twenty things you watched a parent do, with other adults, with your siblings, with you, and scores them on six axes the same way as the Dark Mirror. Then it shows you where they sit against every other parent who has been rated by the person they raised.
Every person you rate goes into their own dataset on the Index, never mixed with people who answered about themselves. The curve for parents opens at 30 ratings.
Things you have probably watched happen
- How they behave when someone else is watching, and when nobody is.
- Which child could do no wrong, and which could do no right, and how that changed.
- What happened the first time you said no to them as an adult.
Every option in the take is a thing a person did, not a thing they meant. Answer with what you saw.
Six axes, one verdict
Psychopathic, sociopathic, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, neurotypical. The type they read as, the band on every axis, and where they sit against everyone rated.
How to carry yourself
Three lines per verdict from someone who has the pattern from the inside. Recognition, never a plan of attack.
Then send it to them
The result carries a link they can open and take about themselves. The gap between the two readings is usually the whole story.
Reading someone else?
Frequently asked questions
Can this tell me if my parent is a narcissist?
No. Nothing on the internet can, and this page does not claim to. It tells you what they read as on six axes, from twenty things you watched them do, and how that compares with everyone who has been rated. A diagnosis needs a clinician, a history, and the person in the room.
Is rating a parent disloyal?
It is private, it is a reading of what you saw, and nobody sees it unless you show them. Naming a pattern is not an accusation; it is the first thing every good therapist would ask you to do.
What if I score like them?
Take the Dark Mirror about yourself and see. Growing up inside a pattern teaches you the moves; it does not make you the person who taught them.
Nothing on this page or its results is a diagnosis of anyone. What a person reads as on this instrument, as answered by one person who knows them, is a reading aid. Only a clinician can diagnose, and only with a proper assessment. Aggregates from rated people live on the Dark Mirror Index.