Educational use only. This quiz cannot diagnose your partner or you, and it asks nothing about violence, so it cannot tell you whether you are safe. If you are frightened right now, a domestic violence service comes before any of this.

A harm-and-pattern check

Are You Dating a Sociopath?

Twenty scenarios from the Sociopathic Dating Bible.

The short answer first, because that is what you came for. No quiz can tell you what he is, and any page that says otherwise is guessing. What the research does say is that your own read is the part worth trusting: when women’s assessments of their own situation were tested against the clinical instruments built for it, the women were right more often, and where they were wrong they had guessed too low.

So this asks twenty things you have actually watched happen, and twenty things you have actually felt, and tells you what the two together match and what they cost you. Honest, not alarming, and free.

20 scenarios
About 6 minutes to complete
2 axes
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Free to take, quadrant read returned in full. The complete report is $9.99.

The Two Axes

Most quizzes like this ask only what you can see. The felt axis is the half with research behind it: a woman’s own reading of her risk has outperformed the clinical instruments it was tested against, and where she was wrong she usually guessed too low. The two together say more than either alone.

Behavioural Red Flags
Visible

Money probes, future-faking, charm-on-demand, gaslighting, boundary erosion, isolation. The patterns you can point at.

Internal Red Flags
Felt

Smaller after, walking on eggshells, sleep loss, the stomach drop, the daydream of escape. The body's read.

The four configurations of the two axes are: Probably Not the Pattern · Visible But Unfelt · The Gut Knows · The Pattern Is Confirmed. Your result page returns the configuration plus what to do with it.

Who built this

Kanika Rose · Diagnosed ASPD · Author

No validated sociopath detector exists, so nothing on this page is one. What it can do is compare what you reported against what survivors of partners high in Factor 1 traits describe, and tell you what the relationship is costing you. It is drawn from the Sociopathic Dating Bible, written by an author with the diagnosis (ASPD) the question is about.

The two-axis structure (visible and felt) is the point. Score only visible behaviour and you miss the relationships where the body has caught what the head has not yet named; score only feelings and you overcall the relationships where ordinary anxiety, a depressed partner or a bad year produce exactly the same internal weather.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Two axes: Behavioural Red Flags (the visible patterns, lying, future-faking, charm-switching, boundary erosion, financial sketchiness, gaslighting, isolation) and Internal Red Flags (the body's reading, feeling smaller after, walking on eggshells, sleep loss, the stomach drop when their name appears, the daydream of escape). The combination of the two is a more reliable signal than either alone.
No. A quiz cannot diagnose your partner, only a licensed clinician with a full history can do that, and they generally need to assess the partner directly, not through your self-report. There is also no validated sociopath detector to build one from. What this quiz CAN do is show you whether what you reported matches what survivors of partners high in Factor 1 traits describe, and what the relationship is costing you. It scores the configuration, not the person.
You're in the 'Visible But Unfelt' quadrant, the visible evidence is there but your internal-warning system has not caught up. This is, in our experience, the most dangerous of the four configurations, because the body's warnings are usually what drives action. The result page covers what to do specifically.
It depends. If the anger is general (they don't like online quizzes), that's just preference. If the anger is specifically focused on you researching personality disorders or coercive control, the anger is itself a behavioural red-flag item that this quiz does not include explicitly but probably should. Most people in healthy relationships do not police their partner's reading.
Many people are not ready when they take this quiz. The result page is written with that in mind. You do not have to act on a score; you do not have to make any decision today. What you can do, regardless of whether you're ready to leave, is start a private record of events (date, what happened, your read), tell one person you trust the specific facts, and see a therapist with coercive-control experience. The decisions that follow are downstream of those steps.
The quiz is about your experience of the relationship, not a clinical assessment of your partner. Even if every answer were a 2, that would not, on its own, prove anything about your partner, it would describe a relationship-pattern that warrants attention. The fairer-to-them framing is: the quiz tells you what your relationship is doing to you, and that is information you are entitled to.
The cost of acting cautiously on a false positive is, in most cases, much smaller than the cost of ignoring a true positive in this configuration. Cautious action, keeping the record, talking to a therapist, telling one trusted person, separating finances enough that you can leave if you have to, does not require you to be sure. It requires you to be careful. If your partner is actually having a hard year, the cautious moves will not damage the relationship.
Stored only in your browser session by default. We do not sell or share quiz responses. If a partner has access to your device or accounts, please be aware that the result page renders inside your browser, clearing the session is one tap; closing the tab is another. We do not log answers server-side without explicit registration.
Generally no, especially in the high-score quadrants. Quizzes are weaponisable inside the configuration this quiz describes; the conversation will not go where you expect. The right people to share the result with are a therapist, one trusted friend or family member, or, if relevant, a domestic violence service. The right person not to share with is the partner whose behaviour is being scored.
Stop here and contact a domestic violence service. If you are in immediate danger, call your local emergency number. US: 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. UK: 0808 2000 247. Australia: 1800 737 732. Anywhere else, findahelpline.com lists the service for your country. This quiz asks nothing about violence and cannot tell you whether you are safe; the validated screen is the Danger Assessment at dangerassessment.org, scored with an advocate. Your safety matters more than this score.

Related reading

Book

The Sociopathic Dating Bible

The 70,000-word manual this quiz is drawn from. Its chapters cover the patterns these scenarios ask about in much more depth.

Self-test

The Sociopath Test (LSRP)

A self-assessment for the partner this quiz cannot score. If you can get them to take it (or take it as if you were them, based on what you know), the LSRP-calibrated read is informative.

Sister quiz

The Daughter Pattern Assessment

If you grew up in an NPD-trait-heavy household, the partner-pattern you keep ending up with often maps onto the household. The Daughter Pattern Assessment is the upstream read.

App

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Free to start. Scenarios and drills on the territory this quiz covers, run by an author with adjacent personal experience. Not a substitute for therapy.

Guide

ASPD and sociopathy: the complete guide

What the diagnosis actually is, how it differs from psychopathy, and what the research says about who has it.

If you are in danger right now

Please contact a domestic violence service before taking this quiz. US: National DV Hotline 1-800-799-7233. UK: 0808 2000 247. Australia: 1800RESPECT. International: findahelpline.com. Your safety is more important than this score.

Full disclaimer

Educational and reflective use only. This quiz cannot diagnose anyone, not your partner, not you, not a relationship. Only a licensed clinician with a full history can diagnose any personality disorder, and only you (with help, if needed) can decide what to do about a relationship. If you are in immediate physical danger or being financially entrapped, please contact a domestic violence service in your country. Crisis resources surface on the result page when scores are high.

How this test is scored
The instrument
An original scenario set drawn from the Sociopathic Dating Bible, not a published instrument. 20 items.
How it is scored
Twenty scenarios scored onto two axes: what you have watched them do, and what your body registered.
What it is compared against
No norms claimed, and no cutoff.
What the research says is wrong with it
No validated sociopath detector exists. The gut axis is the part with research behind it: victims' own risk ratings predicted re-assault better than clinical tools did (Heckert and Gondolf 2004; Cattaneo and Goodman 2003).
What a result is not
A result here is a trait profile, never a disorder and never a diagnosis. Only a clinician with your full history can diagnose anything, and no self-report questionnaire can.