Video 1 - Foundation

this course will be life-changing for you, and we're going to start with the basic foundation and That is understanding that butterflies does not mean attraction. It doesn't mean there's a spark It doesn't mean that that's chemistry. It is your body telling you it's Screaming at you to run away because this person is unstable This person can't provide for you this person is not safe for your body We are a stupid generation our grandmothers even our mothers knew that stability was always better than then you Then your stability was always better than that twinge in the pit of your stomach That is your body's fight-or-flight response that is adrenaline telling you that you are making a very bad decision it Also makes you weak and vulnerable So you'll get dopamine hits when you get a text from this person because it's so unreliable That your brain sees it as a drug almost it sees this as like oh my god I've just had a boost of heroin because this guy has texted me after ignoring me for weeks That's not a good world to live in That's the world where you get manipulated you get destroyed and you end up in the fetal position on the floor This isn't something that you want for yourself You want to do that to other people you want other people to be waiting on your text You want other people to be in the fetal position because you don't like them there is a stability in someone and That stability allows them to truly care for you and to truly love you if you keep chasing those butterflies You're gonna end up so damaged that not even you will be able to put yourself back together You'll be in therapy for years Trying to figure it out. So why don't we nip that in the bud right now?

This is exactly why the hot and cold strategy works Because not only does it allow them to have zero emotional investment in you It allows them to treat you like utter shit because you feel so good from any ounce of attention from them This is why guys will be very very like forthcoming with you suddenly You're their soulmate suddenly they want to marry you and then you don't hear from them for a week After they've slept with you This behavior is what keeps you hooked And if you recognize this behavior as something that it truly is which is toxic control Perhaps you'd have more control of your own life So as soon as you feel those butterflies, I want you to associate it with disgust Not with attraction not with excitement not with any positive emotion. I need you I implore you to associate that with Disgust and contempt because anyone who is giving you a bodily sensation like that is Messing with you You don't allow that to happen. You are sovereign you control your whole fucking body You control your brain you control everything around you You don't allow other people to have control over you So when you feel disgust and contempt your body protects you it doesn't allow you to be manipulated It doesn't allow you to be someone else's victim and when you feel disgust and you feel nausea at the thought of someone Being cavalier with your time and your personality and your body like you are in a position to make decisions You're in a position to be the dominant person You You will be comfortable walking away when things don't meet your criteria Your criteria is the most important criteria Just remember anxiety is generally not a good thing And if you're feeling those same feelings when you look at someone or you think that you're attracted to them You should regard it as something that's just as unpleasant as anxiety