Ask Kanika · "How to get toddlers to hate a narcissistic grandparent?"

This one actually made me giggle a little bit, I'm sorry. Um, to get kids to hate anyone is pretty easy. Like, let me give you an example. So, my mum, from the day I was like four, or as early as I can remember, would tell me, like, how bad my father is, like, oh, he did this, and he did that, and he did this, and, you know, he treated me so poorly and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And, like, I was a kid, so I was like, okay, I believe this, like, he's a bad person for what he did. And, like, obviously I'm going to side with the person I feel has been aggrieved. But then, obviously, they can make up their own minds later on, but, you know, turning a kid against someone is actually quite easy. Um, I don't know, my mum managed to convince my brother and I for as long as I recall, until I turned 15, and then she suddenly became, like, a, you know, one parental unit with my father.

But, yeah, like, the whole time I was, I grew up sort of resenting what he had done, and I hadn't even really understood what he'd done. I didn't know if it was even true. Obviously, like, when I confronted him about a lot of it when I grew up, he was like, yeah, no, that didn't happen. But, yeah, like, it