Ask Kanika · "Hi Kanika! I have interest in someone who works in the same field as me. For obv…"

Hey, lovely, thanks for reaching out. So we don't need to play any dark psychological games here. What we need to do is create a level of authenticity and a shared bond between you and this person. So I have a lot of friends who are autistic and on the spectrum in general.

I cannot even count the number. And I just love how upfront and sort of blunt they can be. What I would suggest in this situation is that you create some sort of in-joke. How often do you see this person and in what situations do you see them?

Like, is there anything that you can do in terms of creating a mutual friend, someone who can sort of hype you up a little bit? Nothing like ridiculous, nothing dark that will risk your career because that thing is going to keep you thriving for the rest of your life. So you want to prioritize that over games to win a man. So with autistic people, you guys tend to be very, very honest and in today's world, honesty doesn't always work.

So what you need to do instead is to create a personality that you can present to the world that you feel confident with. And when you step into that role, which I know can be very difficult for people with autism or neurodivergence or bein